The Truth About Outgrowing Friendships
Trust Your Gut
“One thorn of experience is worth a whole wilderness of warning.” —James Russell Lowell
As women, we question ourselves way more than we need to, especially in relationships. As I've grown older, I've gotten so good at recognizing the way people make me feel. When I initially discovered the power of my discernment, I didn't always trust it. I still second-guessed my gut many times. I would continue to engage with people who no longer served me, and I'd find myself filled with anxiety and regret every time. Don't be like me. I used to feel like my discernment wasn't enough. It's as if I needed tangible proof to justify my letting someone go, and guilt-free. I’ve come to realize that discernment is both a gift and shield of protection from God. When we get those gut feelings about people, God permits us to disengage. And sure enough, with time, what I’ve known someone was capable of, because of my discernment, is eventually revealed in that person.
Trust your gut. It never lies to you. When you get that feeling in your spirit that it's time to move on, when you receive the first red flag, know that it is indeed enough. Go forth.
2. Draw Closer to God
When it's time to let go of people, it means God is preparing you for something new. It's called growth. To grow into who God has called us to be, we must lean deeper into our faith and listen for God's voice and direction. I find that fasting allows me to see and hear God the clearest. Prayer, worship, and meditation are other ways that I feel bring me the closest to God. Get it all, my love. Figure out where God is calling you next so that you can become who the world needs, and go where your new people can find you.
3. Make A List
Whenever I feel doubtful about my relationships, I love writing down the names of people I have in my life currently and the value we add to one another. Whether it's family or childhood friends, it's important to remind ourselves that we are not alone. So, next time you're feeling down about your circle of friends, I challenge you to make a list of your ride-or-dies and maybe even send a text to tell them how much they mean to your life.
Experiencing loss is never fun. However, the endless possibilities of who and what can come into your life are so exciting. Shift your perspective, and GET READY!!!!! God has a new tribe waiting for you.
I love you, sis.
XX,
Braea